day 576: converting people is useless.

writeSo here I am, sitting down for a moment of self-writing, though almost the day is over for me. So breathe, be here, relax, look at the words, and just write. I mean, here I am expressing myself as self-intimacy. So scanning my day today to see what I can write about, as sometimes topics don’t’ just show up that easily.

I realize every encounter is precious, meaning, any moment shared with another is a cool chance to show/share some common sense, or even just listen to them, as that could plant a seed. And you never know how/when it could assist them. I had a long chat with my yoga teacher today, she seems pretty convinced about her spiritual path, (which includes the typical spiritual chants/yoga/guru stuff like that), the things I was sharing about equality etc, couldn’t’ get to her. I mean no judgment, not too long ago I was a heavy-metal spiritual junkie as well, hell-bent on chanting/god/meditation things like that, only after a process with desteni, I could see some common sense, so naturally, I don’t’ expect someone like my yoga teacher to just see the common sense in one chat.

But the sharing is enough, I am not interested in converting people, only religious people convert, and desteni is not a religion, it’s simply a path of common sense, with specific set of self-applicable tools like self-forgiveness, self-honesty and writing. I see/realize I have a tendency to preach, and sort of wanting to convert others, this is useless. Nobody will convert because I am lecturing them on desteni/tools etc; however they might ask questions, discuss after having seen some change in me, in that they might open up for a chance to plant a seed.

So it’s important that I see every encounter is not just an encounter for a chit-chat, but a chance to share a real moment, a moment of REALNESS, certainly not to be squandered by seeking to convert them. I mean ultimately every moment is a moment to share with another as myself, so give them what you would like to receive: common sense, support, real listening, some direction, etc.

I had few encounters today, I think, a bit more listening, really listening could have helped, less preachy, in that giving them a chance to self-expand, rant/rave, etc, those are moments of realness. I mean, why on earth did Bernard spend so many hours on chatting with people to assist them with their ‘personal problems’, I mean, he could have simply talked about the ‘big stuff’ like changing the world-system etc, instead he took real interest in people’s personal issues, and supported them. It’s in the small acts the process is walked, so encounters are pretty cool.

Tomorrow I have a meeting with a big boss, so this is also a chance to be real, be here, no bullshitting, not to show off anything, not to suck up, just be here, just me, myself, no personality activations. So, I commit myself to stop the ‘converting tendency’ in me, I replace it with just being real, myself, sharing common sense etc. I drop the tendency to “convert” people, instead I stand as an example, I mean eventually those real chats will open up the chance to talk about blogging/process/forgiveness etc, then its real guidance/direction not a conversion as such. Again, it all starts with me, with me standing as real.  
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day 575: Not taking things personally is great support for others

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take the words “I hate you” very personally, not seeing/realizing people are going through stresses or tension within themselves, for which they believe others/me as the cause. Within this I direct myself to not take those words personally, also to support them to see/realize how to look through the stresses to find solutions, I mean otherwise we are stuck at our mind positions born out of stress.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see/realize by taking their words like “I hate you” personally, I am actually giving their insane minds more power, I see/realize every person is a Mind Conscious System, which is extremely unreliable and unsteady, and so by taking their words personally I am only making the unreal real. So I direct myself to ask questions, hear, listen and understand their issues instead of taking their upsetting words personally and making the situation even worse. Me getting upset, annoyed, hurt etc, is not going to change anything, but by remaining stable within myself, by not taking their words personally, I am giving space, and allowing solutions to be found. I mean, when a person is really upset, the best support to give them is not take their words personally. I think, I would like that from others when I speak shit, or I am upset or in a bad mood. Sometimes people do lose their minds so nasty words will follow, so the best support to give in such moments is not take those words seriously or personally. I mean, when they calm down or at a later time, we can always revisit such situations to correct them, so to avoid future replay of it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see/realize not too long ago, I was a demon myself, as I have spoken the mother of all nasty words to people in my life in a blink of an eye without any consideration whatsoever, so I see/realize, the value of support I can give by not taking nasty words personally, because in doing so, they can actually see the madness for themselves. I am grateful to people who didn’t take my words back then very seriously, I mean, looking back, what if they had acted out or, what if my words back then had ‘pushed them over’, I mean, the consequences I will be facing today would ‘hellish’, fortunately, they were able to not take my words personally and were able to ‘brush aside’ without further compounding, for that I am grateful. So I direct myself to see/realize, there is great support given when I don’t’ take things too seriously or personally; it might even encourage others to ‘open their eyes’ to the madness that’s happening. Not taking things personally is a great point of support. 

 

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